Today is exactly one month until the day I will be entering the Sacrament of Marriage with Timothy Killoran! I am very excited for July 23rd to come for many reasons!
Getting married is one of those things you think about your whole life! Many young women dream of their wedding day, the man of their dreams, and having a house and a family of their own! In preparing for marriage, I realize there is so much more that I am excited about and I realize I won’t know the real depth of marriage until I begin to experience it. So, I wanted to share a few of the reasons why I think the Lord has great plans in store for us!
I’m excited to have a foundation of prayer in our relationship. It is so beautiful that Christ is and will continue to be at the centre of our relationship, our decisions, our love, and our everyday tasks. I love that we share a missionary heart, morals, beliefs and values.
I’m also excited for the grace that will be poured down upon us through the Sacrament! We have just spent a year focusing on the Holy Spirit and with a new, deepened abandonment and docility to the Spirit, I know that will bear much fruit in our relationship.
I know there are many, many things to be excited for and I also know this vocation will involve sacrifice – something that I didn’t really think of when I was growing up. We must to choose to love, even when it hurts; to choose to forgive, even when it takes our whole heart; and to choose to be selfless, even when we want to be selfish. I must constantly place the ‘other’ before myself.
This past Sunday was Trinity Sunday. We can look to the Trinity as the perfect example of a loving relationship.
Pope Benedict XVI shared these words on Trinity Sunday. “So, in the mystery of the cross, there are three Divine Persons, the Father, who gave his only begotten Son for the salvation of the world, the Son, who carries out the will of the Father to the very end and the Holy Spirit – poured out by Jesus at the moment of his death – who comes to render us participants in divine life, to transform our lives, so that our lives are animated by divine love.”
“The Father, Son and Holy Spirit are one, because God is love: the Father gives everything to the Son, the Son receives everything from the Father with gratitude, and the Holy Spirit is like the fruit of this mutual love between the Father and Son,” said the Pope. He described the Holy Trinity – the Christian proposition that God is three persons but one divine nature – as the “first and greatest mystery of our faith.”
Christopher West speaks of spousal union as an analogy of the Trinitarian mystery. He writes, “In fact, God intends marital union as an earthly image of His own Trinitarian ‘exchange of love.’ It’s also a ‘promise’ of our destiny to share in the love of the Trinity through Christ. ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the church’ (Eph 5:31-32).”
Benedict XVI noted the beginning of the month of June dedicated to the Sacred Heart and encouraged married couples to make their love a witness to God’s love. I pray that our marriage may be a witness to God’s amazing love and filled with the grace to imitate the love of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
Janine, a CCO Staff member, is married to Tim Killoran (also a staff member) with one child. They currently live in Ottawa. This blog was written in the summer of 2011 while serving at UBC in Vancouver.